Asked by fabulousworkinprogress
That makes me very happy; thank you. :)
On the plus side, The Winter Long comes out on Tuesday, and Symbiont comes out in November. So I’m doing my best to keep up with you!
Eeeee Tuesday needs to show up faster!
Asked by Anonymous
i’m not entirely comfortable speaking about this because i’m white myself, but before you pester actual poc who have to deal with this shit all the fucking time, let me clear up why what you’re experiencing is not racism, but discrimination:
because racism is an institutionalised system of oppression against poc. institutionalised being the key word here. it’s deeply embedded into every layer of our society/culture, to the point that people whom it benefits – i. e. white people like us – don’t even notice or recognize it without a lot of education (and even then, we will fuck up.)
discrimination means someone in a position of power over you abuses that power to shit on you for whatever reason. i know it sounds similar, but the difference is the point i made above: racism is ubiquituous, and so entrenched into our society so that it becomes the entire society that is working – usually not consciously, but that doesn’t matter – against poc.
i’m not saying you’re situation doesn’t suck, but it’s not because our entire society treats white people like second-rate human beings. got that? it sucks, but it’s not racism.
Saying that you cannot be racist against whites is not, in fact, racism. Stating that, however, is a baseless, ignorant, utterly privileged syllogism devoid of all empathy and sense.
Are white boys being gunned down in the street because they might’ve maybe stolen a cigar? Are white girls being shot in the face because they dared to ask a stranger for help, and then the news runs the most demeaning photo they can find of her? Are white mothers watching their boys grow up terrified that because they are white, they are vastly more likely to be shot by the police who are supposed to be protecting families?
Racism is a systematic oppression. It is not someone calling you a crackah. It is not someone saying something about white people’s hair, or music, or shit about white people liking mayonnaise. It is not even about if you are the only white kid in an all black school so you feel all picked on and sad. That’s not racism. At BEST, that’s just plain bullying and basic fucking kids being shitheads.
You know what is racism? This, and this, and this, and this, and this, and this. Have you started to see a theme? Hint: It’s not in the content. It’s in the context. Racism is some fuckhead on Faux News calling Asians “an industrious, conservative people” and no one at the station even batting an eye. Racism is rampant police brutality and Stand Your Ground laws so egregiously biased that a crazy man who went on to terrorize his girlfriend at gunpoint got away with murdering a kid barely old enough to shave, who was armed with fucking Skittles. Racism is also the fact that Zimmerman gets a free pass, continually, because jurisprudence is so embarrassed that they let it fly the first time that they have to just keep going, like a two year old babbling a lie. Racism is also the fact that whites get to shoot people if they “fear” them, and black people can’t shoot someone if they’re actively being threatened and told they are going to die.
This kind of false equivalency early kindergarden version of understanding racism is exactly what is wrong with this country right now. If you don’t see that whites get to play the game of life on easy mode - well, then that’s on you.
Also, um, I love the idea of George being bisexual - and if you try to convince me he’s not we’ll be having some problems - but do the people headcanoning him as being attracted to Alanna before she revealed she was a girl realize that would make him attracted to an eleven year-old?
I believe that the reveal happened when she was 13 or 14, at the end of the first book. It certainly happened well after Ralon and after the Sweating Sickness, which was when she was 12. The book’s comment on his age said he was 16-17, which would make it 14-18ish in age difference. Not ideal, but, it isn’t as though he acted on any attraction until she was 17 or 18. An older teen being attracted to a younger teen and keeping his trap shut for another two books isn’t that bad, IMO.
Granted, my own headcannon keeps them pretty separate until she really starts coming into her own, but I also view Alanna as pretty gender fluid by nature, and that his acceptance of her as exactly who she was mattered. John wanted her to be “female” in his worldview. George had no such notions.
"Give me reasons to believe that you would do the same for me, and I would do it for you"
I MADE A VIDEO OF DEAN AND CAS’ RELATIONSHIP SO FAR BECAUSE SEASON 10 IS TAKING TOO LONG
AND ALSO BECAUSE THIS SONG SUITS THEM SO WELL
this is too perfect not to reblog
My headcannon for them is shared by so many people it might actually be reality now.
One of the best fanvids I’ve ever seen.
And when she says ‘one of the best […] EVER’ (emphasis mine), lemme tell ya: it’s really, really true.
hey you there
stop what you’re doing
I CANNOT HIT THE REBLOG BUTTON HARD ENOUGH
GO TO WARP TEN
Asked by qog314
I started and re-started my answer to this ask half a dozen times. Because it’s a really, really important question, but it’s also a hard question to answer in a useful way. I’m going to do my best.
Nothing is as important as what you believe is true. If I can control what you think, I can control every decision you make. I can control what products you buy, who you vote for, which of your friends you trust—and which of them you distrust; I can choose which social causes you apply yourself to, and how effectively you champion them; to a very great extent I can even decide what you’ll major in in college, who you’ll marry, IF you’ll marry, if you’ll STAY married if the marriage goes bad, what job you’ll go for, how well you’ll do in that job, how you spend your leisure hours, how you treat your children, how you feel about yourself when you look in the mirror, what you’ll eat for dinner, and if you’ll respect yourself in the morning.
EVERY DECISION YOU MAKE is based on what information you’ve accepted. So if I can make you believe what I want you to believe, I own you.
And make no mistake: my best interests are NEVER the same as your best interests. The most you can hope for from ANY source is that their interests and your interests align. If I’m a company, then it’s in my best interest if you buy my product. I am only interested in the quality and safety of my product to the extent that you will not buy it if it’s garbage, or too dangerous. If I’m a newspaper, believe me, my goal is not to make you a more informed citizen of the world. My goal is to sell newspapers.
However, it may be that my reputation is an important part of reaching my goals: and if I feed you misinformation, my reputation may be damaged. And so a degree of trust may be invested in sufficiently reputable sources, since their goal (“to maintain a high reputation”) and your goal (“to learn something”) are aligned. Be VERY CAREFUL when bestowing this kind of trust on a source, and NEVER let them act as your ONLY source. You can never know for sure how important that reputation really is to them, or for what ends they may be willing to compromise it.
"But this information is from a random Tumblr post, not a news corporation, or a professional blog. Nobody’s making money, here. So why would they lie to me?" Attention? Attention’s a big one. Those posts you see going around, full of SHOCKING CLAIMS, usually have tens of thousands of notes. Tens of thousands of people shocked - shocked! - to learn that feeding bread to ducks makes them sick, or that Charlie Chaplin was a Nazi, or that bleach mixed with baking soda can eat through concrete. It doesn’t matter that none of those things are true. It doesn’t even matter if the OP, or all of the people reblogging it, BELIEVE that they’re true. What matters is that EVERY SINGLE ONE OF THOSE PEOPLE had in their own interest something that was more important to them than “make sure the things I’m reblogging are accurate.”
Maybe they wanted the prestige of being the first to bring interesting new information to their social group. Maybe they were alarmed by what they read, and they wanted to keep their friends and loved ones safe. Maybe what they read reinforced some bias that they had, and so they disseminated it because they wanted it to be true. Maybe having this surprising intel on their blog made them feel more intelligent, or more socially conscious. There are lots of reasons, because there are lots of people, and every single one of those people had their own best interests.
And none of those interests are yours.
So because what you believe is SO important, and because you are the sole guardian of your own best interests, I think it’s downright reckless to accept any piece of information as fact without asking two questions first:
- Who is telling me this? Do I have reason to trust them? Should I trust them SO MUCH as to let them be the sole arbiter of what I believe on this subject?
- Who benefits if I accept it as the truth? THIS IS VERY IMPORTANT. A lot of information masquerades as being in the interests of one thing when really it’s in the interests of something else. Really think about it.
When you choose to believe someone - anyone - about anything, you are giving them power over you. And skepticism is the only thing that protects you from giving that power to people who don’t deserve it.
Critical thinking, folks. Critical thinking. THIS IS IT.